RIGHT? I mean, it sounds reasonable. •Until you’re asked to abstain.• If it makes you uncomfortable/negative emotions arise at this topic, because you “don’t have a problem with alcohol” then I feel ya. In the past, the TOPIC of not drinking - friends who wouldn’t have a drink (or 1 more) w/me hacked me off at times.
I have been on a solid 6 month 100% sabbatical from alcohol. It would be a year, but I succumbed; It would be 9 months, but again I “changed my mind”. Blahblahblah.
See, because I “don’t have a problem”, (irony, much?) I could opt to change my mind🧐and have a drink. Right?
So I reset my goal of TOTAL abstinence with greater resolve. Zero exceptions.
• I’m sharing my experience thus far because it’s surprised me. Again & again.• This will be a multi-part post.
But here’s the why:
About 2 1/3rd years ago, I was faced with life-threatening addiction of someone I love immensely. This person agreed to accept help. With the support of friends and family we were able to get the help needed. Thank God. But this is not their story, not mine to tell. •This is about the cold hard fact: “addiction is a family disease.”•
The first packet of info from @alina_lodge 🙏😍advised us to remove alcohol/drugs from our home, and attend AlAnon 12 Step meetings. My anger/resentment to these “rules” was a big F you. I BELIEVED: “I didn’t have a problem.” I managed my drinking and didn’t take drugs, so why should I have to change? I work hard, am responsible and DESERVE a bottle of two of wine over the weekend. A glass or 2 after work/
to celebrate/relief after a bad day. I can control MY drinking, get up and to work and do a good job. Ok so yeah maybe I would get a little slurry from time to time but who doesn’t?
Maybe I’d let down my inhibitions and do something risky, lose my ‘filter’ and say something I shouldn’t. Maybe I’d pick a fight over nothing, be a little lethargic or grumpy the next day, be a little ashamed as I tried to remember EXACTLY what I said the night before as I laid around eating bad food to combat a hangover.
But I DON’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOL..(ya with me?) so why should I change?
More to come.