𝕀 𝕔𝕙𝕠𝕠𝕤𝕖 𝕞𝕪𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕗.
Cue Beyonce’s ‘Don’t get it twisted.’ “I choose me” is not code for ‘be selfish’ or engage in narcissistic behaviour. “I choose myself” means before anyone else, before anything else, your wellbeing comes first.
This is a hard concept to grasp. Mostly because we are taught to put others before ourselves. Our children. Our parents’ desires. Our boss’ demands. But the truth is, if we don’t nourish ourselves first, we have nothing to give. This forces us to pull from resources outside of ourselves which means we seek worth & validation from others. Of course we *should* be able to seek comfort from our partners, our friends, and our family. Of course we *should* be able to feel safe with at least one other person. But what happens when those outside sources are no longer there? Who fills you up then?
“I choose myself” means I choose my happiness. I choose my fulfilment. I choose to say no to toxicity. I choose to stop suffering. I choose to say “no thanks, don’t feel like it” to meeting up with people. I choose to stop making excuses.
“I choose me” means your own mental health comes first. “I choose me” means not letting circumstances define who you are, but creating who it is you want to be. It is self-ownership. It is being in alignment with what your heart wants, and what your heart is guiding you towards. Putting others first is a choice. What are you sacrificing by making that choice? Your time? Your energy? Your happiness. STOP.THAT.SHIT. What makes you think others deserve more than you do?
“I choose me” is NOT a green light to treat others poorly. “I choose me” comes with a great amount of self-responsibility. It comes with the need to speak candidly but *always* kindly. After all, honesty without kindness is cruelty. It is often accompanied by the need to let people go and to tell them face-to-face instead of disappearing. It forces you to show up, to create healthy boundaries, and to not tolerate anything less than what you want for yourself. It also means you leave revenge and karma to the Universe. You do not have time or energy for things that bring you down. Let.It.Go. Focus on yourself. Choose yourself.