Ain’t it funny how a person can say someone else is needy because they request things that they don’t want to provide or just aren’t providing? Granted, some people are co-dependent and request things that are beyond what can or should be given. But, from what I’ve experienced and from the conversations I’ve had with emotionally intelligent people, often times it comes down to whether or not the person WANTS to give and IF they are.
When we want to give, it doesn’t seem like a burden. If we don’t want to, it can seem like too much. If our partner is asking for more quality time and we WANT to give it, it won’t even be a 2nd thought. Or if we are sharing quality time already, the request may never rear its head.
What this really comes down to is want and action annnnd AWARENESS OF the others’ LOVE LANGUAGE‼️
When we GIVE love how another FEELS love, giving time if that’s what they want or words of affirmation if that’s what they want, we fill the love tanks. Obviously, good communication could solve the issue, asking questions like: what do you want out of this? What do I do that makes you feel loved? What do I do that makes you feel unloved? How can we make this better?
All because we WANT to, this can be easily solved.
I strongly believe in prevention so I believe in discussing things before they become major issues, before resentment builds. So, letting someone know how things are feeling and going, what’s liked and not, goes a long way. If after that, nothing changes...they don’t want to; mooove onnn because those that want to, will.
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